Monday, March 30, 2009

So happy to be wrong!!!

I feel the need to report back about Friday's Fiesta after posting the story with such a strong (that's mild) "what-Not-To-Do" slant. I was pleasantly surprised at the turn of events of Friday evening and I must share!

My husband left early for the party, as he had been asked to arrive right at the beginning, or even 30 minutes early by Pedro. Thankfully he was OK with the two of us driving separately, as the party was scheduled to start at 7 p.m. and I didn't even arrive home from the office until 6:25. (Friday Night Parties that start before 7:30 are a pet-peeve of mine - but that's another post.)  

I arrived at the party closer to 8 p.m. fully expecting to see my husband in a Mariachi costume (picture multi-color ruffled sleeves, black vest and tight black pants emblazoned with rhinestone designs) behind the bar,  pouring margaritas like a pro with one hand, maraca in the other, shaking his groove-thing to la Cucaracha as he worked. He was not. And I must say after conjuring the image, I was a little disappointed I didn't get to see it in reality. I found him on the back porch talking to some friends with a beer in hand, no costume, no pouring, no shaking. 

When I asked what happened to the bartending duties, he just shrugged. Maybe there was a miscommunication from the start - if so, I take back everything I said on Friday and instead I  should post a rant about my husband's listening/communication skills. OR, maybe Mr. & Mrs. Pedro just realized late that the size and scope of the party didn't really demand a dedicated (costumed) bartender, and they graciously decided to let my husband be the guest that he was.  OR maybe someone else took over the job... I did notice that one of Mrs. Pedro's best friends, who also happens to be a professional bartender, was mixing up a batch of margarita's just after I arrived.... so maybe she had offered her services at the last minute freeing my husband of his requested duties. 

Whatever the reason for the change in plans, I am glad I was able to enjoy the party with my husband at my side, rather than seeing him only when I needed a refill! Though I would have like to see him with those ruffled sleeves!

Friday, March 27, 2009

My first post, and I am already on a rant!

My husband and I have been invited to a birthday party for a friend of my husband's, we'll call him Pedro.  I have become friends with Pedro's wife over the past few years, and my husband and Pedro have known each other for over a decade. I wouldn't say any of us are BFFs, but definitely friends... good friends I thought.

So we get the Evite to the party -it's a Mexican Fiesta, margaritas burritos, etc. That's all fine, no need for a fancy invitation for a casual affair. (Though the "BYO-Margarita Ingredients" note on the Evite surprised me a bit. But that is a whole other subject.) Naturally I RSVP that we will happily be there to celebrate Pedro's birthday.

The next thing I know my husband tells me Pedro has asked him to be the bartender for the party. I am immediately irritated. I mean, Margaritas do require some prep-work. It isn't like a beer & wine bar that would be simple for everyone involved, so I can see that my husband is going to be WORKING at the party rather than casually helping with the bar here and there. What's more - if the guests follow the instructions on the Evite, they will be bringing various mixers and flavors, which could lead to hours of custom blending! I can see him now, "Lime, Pomegranate or Mango Flavor? On the rocks or frozen? Salt?"

 I ask why he said yes, and he shrugs. He is really much nicer than I am.

That was a week ago. The party is tonight. Last night my husband and I were discussing the whole thing, protesting that we would CERTAINLY not be bringing any margarita ingredients if one of us was going to be put to work (that'll show 'em!). Then he proceeds to tell me about the Mexican OUTFIT & SOMBRERO that they have asked him to wear while he is bartending. You have got to be kidding!

HOW DOES ANYONE THINK THIS IS ACCEPTABLE? Though I guess I shouldn't be too shocked - this same couple asked a friend to bring his video camera and record their wedding!

Listen folks - if you want a theme bartender at your party - HIRE ONE! Don't ask your friends to work at your party when they should just be guests having fun and celebrating with you. Even if you have a friend that is a bartender by profession - don't ask him to work your party unless he offers first!

OK, I'll get over it now. I mean after all, I'm not the one who has to work. I'll just  be drinking the margaritas... though I fear some barback duties may be ahead of me.